But the Mother-in-law might be crazy :0)

Started this post July 17:

Well, we made one more trip to the ER on Friday, May 30th - middle of the night again of course.  Turns out the water pill that she was to take "as needed" and when I'd ask if she didn't think she should take one - she'd say no, she was just fine - ----- well, she needed to be taking it.  She was retaining fluid and it was getting on her lungs causing her to be short of breath.  There was a fight in the exam room between her and the daughter when we discovered that she should have been taking it but wasn't.  The daughter had been pointing out her swelling feet and suggesting she was retaining fluid too.  So of course, MIL was defensive and arguing that "that's fine, I just won't call or bother any of you anymore" and again saying we were to stay away from her doctor visits, she wants to be in the office alone with the Dr. (she thinks we are conspiring with him I guess.)

SO, we headed home and had an appointment with family doctor &; the heart Dr. on Monday June 2nd.  I expected her to fuss about me going in but she acted like nothing ever had happened or been said about it.  We just waltzed in there like normal.  She was happy that he told her she could stop taking the bladder pill (she'd not taken it since April or so?) and the tummy pill (that she hadn't taken since MARCH!) so she feels like she got a victory.  But he said the water pill is a must and all the others are too.  He gave her prescriptions for the ones that didn't have refills left  - that was cool, I wish my Dr. looked at all my Rx's on my visit and wrote new scripts for those that needed them.  inevitably, I discover that I'm out of refills and need more meds, a week or so after a visit!  Murphy's law!

Finished the post August 14:

Ended up having a big blow up with MIL the last Saturday in June.  I had gone over to pick up DD for work, but MIL & her daughter were already fussing (I'd already been called a name by MIL even!)  We ended up discussing lots of stuff that has been going on, trying to clear the air.  But it became apparent to me that MIL was just being combative.  She has been "off" the last few weeks.  I brought up that she's been difficult and cranky towards me for the last two weeks but she wouldn't admit it or give me a reason.  The daughter went into MIL's room to look for some paper RX's and MIL followed her.   MIL was trying to grab daughter and daughter was swatting her away.  There was no physical "altercation" but some swatting of hands.  Also, in the Living room, MIL got up from her seat to attack a couple times and daughter stood up to her and kept her hands up defensively.  One of the times MIL was going to hit me, and I didn't even realize it later until I was told.  There was shouting and the whole confrontation was bad.  MIL used her emergency device to call for help, saying "These girls are here and they are being mean to me and some one needs to come and make them leave."  It was sad and kinda pathetic.  The Sherriff's deputy arrived and we stepped outside.  He talked to MIL and she said that she was doing just fine, keeping up with her chores and the animals, but we are trying to put her in a home and she doesn't want to go.  We told him that she had been irrational of late and displaying temper and anger that are not normal.  Many of the things she is saying are not true, but we are not able to discern if she is lying or delusional.  He had us leave because she wanted us to, and she doesn't want either of us back in her home.  *sigh*  She will ask her neighbor to take her to town today, and I guess she'll lean on her for errands from now on.

UPDATE: Since I "got fired" by MIL, as I'm calling it.  I have only returned into the house twice, to help my DD take something in or out, and once to use the phone (ours was out.)  I've spoken to the neighbor and indeed, MIL asked her to be her caregiver, BUT, neighbor said "No, I have a house and a job, I can't do that, but I will take you to town for errands and doctor appts. when I can"  But MIL is telling everyone that the neighbor is her caregiver.  The day I was there to use the phone, MI L took the truck out of the garage and headed to town.  I said, "I didn't know the Doctor released you to drive" and she responded that she could do anything she wants  now.  It is worth noting that she didn't say "The doctor said I can do anything I want"  She is doing anything she wants because no one is supervising her anymore.  My dd was still there up until last night when she moved out for college, and she was keeping an eye on her.  But now, MIL has it just the way she wanted it - no one caretaking and she is in complete control.  Unfortunately, that means she is taking risks she shouldn't (mowing the yard, going up and down stairs -- with laundry baskets in her hands even, driving, and not taking meds if she doesn't think she needs them., etc.)  I can pray for her safety and health, but that's it.  I'm sure she will get herself into a medical crisis (my money is on her stopping her water pill AMA) and end up in the ER, then we can step back in and hopefully the Doctors can get her to understand that her health and mental status don't support her being alone any more.