MIL made it home from the Nursing home, but not before she had another UTI and went on a hunger strike, convinced that the workers were coughing on her food and going to make her sick. She developed a respiratory infection, which in her mind confirmed her crazy notion. So we had to move her from that home to another one. She simply would not believe that the food was safe and so she refused to eat anything. In the last couple of days before the move we were able to get her to accept some pre-packaged foods, but they weren't the healthiest.
She moved to the new place March 7 and we had our first phone call from her in less than 24 hours, LOL. She said they were telling her she had a dr. appointment the next day but she didn't know where it was or how she was to get there. We were able to call the nurses and determine that one of them had mentioned that the Nurse Practitioner would see her for the first time tomorrow - MIL just jumbled it all up. That has been the bad thing with this nursing home stay, all of the medical people working with her have noticed her mental confusion and most of them are using the word Dementia pretty freely. Though it's not been diagnosed, it's pretty obvious that it's beginning. She had a follow-up appt. with the Ortho doctor and discovered that her shoulder has fallen out of socket - basically, she's right back to where she was before the surgery :0( Only 15 degrees of lifting from the shoulder. Of course, if you ask her to lift her arm, she bends it at the elbow and touches her shoulder, and believes that she just did what you asked, Bless Her Heart! Since it was out of socket, there was no need to continue therapy, so nursing home was no longer covered under insurance.
So, she was discharged and went home March 26th. She should have 24/7 supervision, but no one is able to do that, so we are doing the best we can. Tim & I have taken her pills to our house and he brings them to her each morning - so she only has one day's worth of Rx at a time. She is supposed to be taking antibiotic for a UTI diagnosed at her follow-up appt. with family doctor a week after her discharge, but is refusing it (actually, she likely had it at then end of the nursing home stay because she was refusing to take her antibiotic there, so this is just the same one probably that never went away.) So not sure what we will do with that. It will only get worse and not better. Unfortunately for us, this means she will get more and more paranoid and irrational and even argumentative, ugh. She has only taken one pill, 4/2/15 and is convinced that it was "working on her." so hasn't taken another - although she will tell the doctor she has been taking it when he asks!
At the appt. with the ortho doctor last week, she was trying to get him to change the antibiotic and he couldn't get her to understand that it is her family doctor who needs to do that. Of course she doesn't want to talk to HIM because she's mad at him for putting her on it. So she said she would just talk to her heart doctor "He'll take care of me!" As the doctor was leaving the room, he looked at me and said, "You do a good job with her." WOW. That meant a lot, considering that she doesn't see and/or appreciate the sacrifices I'm making and how hard I'm trying to work with her. And Ellen told me that the Deans don't see it either or appreciate it. So it's nice to know that *someone* thinks I'm doing a good job. ;0)
Ellen is just about done with this semester of college. She had some upheaval with the roommate and moved out into a single room about a month ago. The roommate was planning to bring her sister to stay for a week - and never asked Ellen if it was okay. The sister had bullied Ellen some in High School and the sister has anger issues, is moody and really difficult - not the sort of person you want to be trapped in a small dorm room with ;0\ We called to see if this could even be allowed and were told that "no" they are freshman so overnight guests are not allowed during the week. So I finally called and tried to find out what to do. Long and short of it is, the roomie was called into the housing office and questioned, but mom had gotten "Special Permission" so there was nothing we could do. When roomie came back and yelled about it, she told Ellen "it doesn't matter, she's coming, there's nothing you can do about it so just deal with it!" Ellen said that was the last straw and pretty much summed up her whole experience as this girl's roommate: Ellen never got a vote, it was always this girl's way and/or her mom's way or the highway. Heck, even knowing that Ellen was considering moving out and she was unhappy, this girl walked into the living room and turned the TV from what Ellen was watching, in the middle of the show, to "get ready" for a show coming on in a half hour. *sheesh!*
Then the mom and I had a blow out over the phone. In the course of that fight I had told the mom that her daughter was having sex in their home when the boyfriend stayed all night there (her daughter had bragged about it to my daughter.) The mom waited until the daughter came home on Friday for the weekend and asked her about it, and daughter said, "no" of course. So mom branded me a liar and lit up Facebook with nasty posts about Ellen and me, thinly veiled of course, but obvious to everyone, LOL. Calling us liars and saying how horrible we were to make up and spread rumors about them. People were responding with the whole "Keep your head up, you are better than this, Karma will get them, etc." stuff to the mom. (and in a side note, nope -- Karma bit them this last weekend instead, a couple of times actually!! LOL)
We were probably pretty frustrating, because we didn't respond to any of it. As soon as I heard about it, I blocked all four of their family members as did Ellen and we just went on with our lives. Their family LOVES drama, so our not engaging was better than trying to fight with them, it likely drove the mom nuts! Funny twist, Ellen and the daughter had a sit-down and worked out their differences and still go to the dining hall now and then (when Ellen doesn't have anything better to do, LOL.) At lunch a couple days ago the daughter told Ellen that she is in trouble with her mom and mom no longer trusts her because she lied about something (not being where she was supposed to be, I think skipping classes specifically, but she didn't elaborate to Ellen.) I just had to laugh because the mom pretty much tried to destroy me for "lying about her daughter" who always "tells her everything, because we are best friends." When in fact, nope, your daughter lies to you a fair amount, she just hasn't ever gotten tripped up in them because usually she is able to tip toe around and get away with it!!
Work is fine. Nothing new or exciting. And home is ok. Still not getting much time in to quilt. It just seems like the days are not long enough. By the time I go to work, come home and make dinner then tidy up from that - it's almost bedtime. My days off, one is spent taking MIL to the store for her groceries and that takes the whole day (seriously, we were in one grocery store for over two hours - not even a super store, just a regular grocery!!) Then the next day I have to try to get MY errands done, *sigh* Weekends seem to always start out with no plans, but as people get out of bed Saturday morning they start "needing" to go to town for this or that, or "needing" to get this or that done, and my things just get pushed to the side, and again, it's time to make dinner and clean up and the whole day is gone. Don't mean to sound whiny, really, I just am frustrated at all the quilting and house stuff piling up, :0( But hopefully with pretty weather I can throw open some windows, get some fresh air and sunshine in and get motivated!!
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